One of my husband Blair's pinnacle messages in his teachings is an encouragement for us to spend time with people who celebrate who we are. What a profound awareness for all of us, as we struggle to live up to the elusive standards of our culture and feel okay about who we are.
This holiday season I realized that people in my life love me, or at least relate to me, in different ways. I have some people in my life whom I literally see a few hours a year, at family reunions and such. These people don't really know who I am today, since my growth curve is steep, and therefore these people relate to me as though I am the person they knew ten, fifteen years ago. Then there are people like my mother, whose love is timeless and unconditional; you know the type who love you no matter what you do and who you are. Hopefully we all have someone who loves us this way, what a gift it is. I then thought about my husband, Blair, and how his love for me calls me to be a better person; he sees who I am becoming and loves me into my highest potential.
I wonder how different your life might be, if you took stalk of your relationships and cherry picked the ones that are truly life giving and supportive. Imagine what would be possible for you if you were to create an inner circle who applauds when you succeed and you would do the same when they shine fully? Through this process of mindfully creating your inner circle of high frequency relationships in your life, you will likely become more aware of situations that pull you into the vortex of negativity, pain and suffering. With a steadfast commitment to something greater, that energy will drop away and others who are more aligned with your vision will be drawn to you. Authentic, vulnerable and trusting relationships are fertilizer for the soul, they nourish us and fuel our creative energy. And that creative energy is essential for fulfilling our dharma, our purpose for being here. Do you see how important this is?
My wish for you this year is that you cultivate relationships that are founded in love and respect, with people who stand for your highest human potential and help to illuminate the brilliance within you.